Another angel on my list...and questions.

I found out a few weeks ago that I was pregnant again.  Had an u/s at 5 weeks to confirm pregnancy, but it was too early for a hb.  Went back a week and later, 6w1d, and baby was exactly on target size wise and had a hb.  Went back yesterday (8 weeks) and the baby had quit growing at 6w2d and there was no hb.

I have to do a D&C this time - never had it for my last four mc because my body did it all on it's own.  I know this has been posted numerous times...but can someone give me an idea what to expect for the D&C? 

I guess the only 'good' thing I can see in this right now - and it's no guarantee - is that there's a university here that has a huge genetics program, and they've advised that if the dr can do the D&C w/o totally destroying everything, they can try to do genetics testing - even on a 6w size embryo - to see if it's a genetic cause or not.  Not that that can answer for the other four - but at least if I know this one was genetic or just my ****** up body (sorry...I'm a little frustrated and bitter right this minute) it gives me some place to start looking.

I was drugged up to the gills on this one - progesterone 3x a day, lovenox 1x a day, 2 baby aspirin a day, folic acid coming out my ears...and still the same results.  Of the 5 mc now...three have been within 1-2 days of exactly 6 weeks.  One was 7.5 weeks, one was about 8 weeks...but the last two, even though there was a hb at 7.5 and 8 weeks, were small for their 'age,' lagging several days behind where they should have been.

I talked to the dr whom I saw two years ago - after mc #2 - at Oregon Health Science University. Before I even mentioned the D&C, he told me to get one done and have them do genetics testing and to call him back with the results of that.  He said that if it shows a genetic problem, they will assume that's the cause of this miscarriage...but if there's nothing in the genetics, there are not a lot of tests left that they can try...that it would just be a matter of finding the right 'treatment' for me.  I've no idea what 'treatment' is left if they can't even confirm the reason...but don't have a lot of choice on 'waiting and seeing' what the results of the testing are - if they're able to do it - then see what the OHSU dr says about alternative treatments.

I asked the dr I was seeing here for this pregnancy re IVF and doing the genetic testing (which is also available here for reasonable prices) and she said that w/five mc now...she does not think that it's genetic...that she thinks it's something to do with my blood clotting mutations.  She said I could do the IVF...but that it's just a 'business' to the IVF drs...and that there are still no guarantees.  I'm looking at it more that if I did the IVF w/the genetic testing...at least I'd know if I mc'd again that it was not a genetic thing and that it was definitely my body causing the problems.   It's also a matter of convincing DH - who waffles back and forth re IVF - to do the IVF and give that a try.

Holly I am so sorry *hugs*

D&C was nothing. I was a little crampy afterwards, just like a bad period. The good news is my OB said that a lot of times you have a sucessful pregnancy soon after one for some reason.I had my D&C in June and got pregnant in August with Amelia.

Thanks Liz.  I think it's the mental part of the D&C that's getting me more than the physical. 

This is like the roller coaster ride that never seems to end.  Sigh...

Holly

I am so sorry!!! My heart breaks for you. Also, the frustration you are feeling must be so trying. I just want you to know I am thinking of you.

I had a D&C years ago with a loss. I had cramping discomfort and some heavy bleeding.

Praying you get answers from the genetic testing!
Traci

Thanks Traci.  The prayers are appreciated.  I miss my rose colored glasses from back in the days.  You get pregnant...you have a baby.  Period.  Any more, I don't even trust my body to do anything it's supposed to do.

I'm sorry for your loss.  I can only imagine the amount of sadness and frustration you are going through.  I had a D&C and the procedure was no big deal- I hardly had any cramping or bleed lightly for 2 days after- I actually had my cycle start in about a week from it.  My Dr reassured me that he would have testing done, and be very careful in there so it would be ideal for another pregnancy soon.  They found no reason for my m/c and I was pregnant that year (had d&c in late june, pregnant end of Oct beginning of Nov).  I was able to carry that pregnancy to term.  I definately believe the emotional part is harder then the physical issues from d&c. 

Thanks Jenn.  You hit the nail on the head...the emotional part is the part I'm dreading most.  I don't know whether to hope the testing comes up with something genetic or not.  If it's not...then what are the alternative treatments...and if so...then will I be able to convince DH to do the IVF.  Right now - because we're both an emotional mess - he's telling me 'whatever you want,' but will he stick to that?  We'll see...I've got time to worry about it.

 

im sorry.

Thanks Lexa.

Oh Holly I am so sorry. I hope with the tests maybe you can find out more info on why this keeps happening to you. (((Hugs)))